They are now refederated: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/instances
They are 👀 now ⏰ refederated👉👈
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Drag apologised to Ada but she won’t unban drag :(. Drag was genuinely sorry. Misunderstood the situation, learned from the mistake.
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The reason why drag misunderstood the situation is because Ada broke a promise. Drag thought she kept it because drag trusted her. She thought drag was trying to make her look bad by proving she lied. But… drag couldn’t know the promise was broken, because it was to have a conversation in private messages. Drag thought the third party involved was lying that Ada didn’t do it. Drag was trying to prove them wrong by showing the promise. Drag didn’t know that proving Ada made a promise would make her look bad.
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Drag isn’t a dragon. Do you think you’ve seen a comment where drag says drag is a dragon? Please share it.
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Thank you, but drag thinks you’re wrong. Drag doesn’t think Ada is the forgiving type. The mistake drag made that lead to getting banned was trusting Ada would keep her promise. Like drag said, drag learned from it. No more trusting Ada.
Drag recognises that’s not a good foundation for reconciliation. But that’s what it feels like Ada was trying to teach drag with the ban. How else is drag supposed to interpret that?
Are we really going to discuss such personal issues in public without the other person present? To me this seems unprompted and very unethical.
Ada isn’t good at being the bigger person.
Don’t expect her to help find a resolution here.
Drag can’t discuss it with Ada. Drag’s banned. You can invite her to this conversation if you like. It would work if you messaged her
What the fuck are you talking about? Are you referring to yourself in the third person? Is this supposed to be cute?
No, drag is referring to dragself in first person using person-independent pronouns.
Is there any perceivable grammatical difference between that, and third person speech? You realize how confusing it is for people who hear third person speech every day but have never heard first person person-independent pronouns before, right?
How did you start using your neopronouns anyways? I don’t think I’ve ever seen you mention that before, and I’m curious.
Do you want drag to avoid confusing other people by exposing them to unfamiliar kinds of pronouns?
They’ve done it on all the comments I’ve seen from them, I cringe hard every time.
You cringe when people use language differently than you?
People tend to cringe at weirdos who try to impose their incredibly niche language choices onto others
Like that guy who insisted on speaking exclusively in older English spellings (and was, like drag, a massive troll that was successful for a shockingly long time)
Like a pretentious teenager getting off on the smell of their own farts
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That it’s similar to the user name makes it more confusing than other options might.
I disagree. I don’t think I would have had any clue what was going on if drag had chosen a different pronoun.
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“I” is the most genderless pronoun in existence - is it not? It literally means me, as a singular human entity. Linguistically I am yet to see any valid argument for its exclusion or substitution in speech. I get the whole problem with he/her etc - there are a specific niche of humans where those words are not sufficient nor apt to describe them and thankfully language then evolved for the sake of inclusivity.
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Drag knows a lot of nonhumans and decided to choose a first person pronoun for a dragon rider. After all, dragon riders aren’t entirely human. The magical bond changes us. And a dragon rider is no longer a single individual. Not in battle, not in soul. Drag is soulbound.
While the atypical pronoun usage can be confusing, it obviously isn’t a personal attack against you.
Ever since drag started using neopronouns, drag has learned that confusing other people is an act of violence. They genuinely feel hurt by it. Drag is sure exactly why, but it might be an ego thing. Possibly drag is making other people feel stupid when they don’t understand. Whatever the cause is, it’s very clear when people talk about incidents where drag upset someone by using a neopronoun. Random bystanders who’ve never met drag before seem to overwhelmingly agree drag is rude, aggressive, confrontational, forcing the conversation… people could only react that way so strongly if they felt that they saw an attack.
At this point drag has just accepted that using drag’s pronouns is violent behaviour. And drag is going to keep doing it, because people who are uncomfortable seeing neopronouns deserve to feel that way. Either they convince the people in charge to punish drag, they keep on being uncomfortable forever, or they grow up. Drag wants the third to happen.
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Still don’t really like instances pressuring other instances over things. I don’t really know why federation with blahaj.zone is necessary. If they want to have a curated platform, let them. Although wouldn’t it have been possible for blahaj to ban the user they were taking issue with from their instance themselves? The whole case seems confusing to me
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I think admins not having absolute power over their little echo fiefdoms is a good feature of the fediverse
It’s not like they couldn’t implement it though
That sucks. I think it’s mainly Lemmy moderation tools at fault here. It should be a feature to defederate/hide a specific user from an instance imo.
I can understand Ada, she wants her community to be the way it is, and that’s fine. And for the Feddit.UK admins for wanting to have Blahaj content on here. It just sucks for all here.
Blahaj refederated:
As far as I understand, they could ban that particular user from their instance.
Not sure why it rose to a question about defederation, unless I’m misunderstanding the tools they have access too, or the number of people involved.
Hopefully it doesn’t take the threat of defederation to make janitors do their jobs in the future.
Between blahaj banning dissenters and feddit being transphobic it’s on us the users to keep them all in line.
I’m banned from both I think
Why
Telling on yourself is always allowed. 🤷♀️
Bad look
kekw
Que cagada hiciste?
I think
My guess? You are. My other guess? You also care that you are, but you’re trying to pretend that you don’t.
I’m commenting so I can look into why later because there’s not a lot of m@teys who’d be proud of that.
Lmao DW I’m not transphobic.
