The reason why drag misunderstood the situation is because Ada broke a promise. Drag thought she kept it because drag trusted her. She thought drag was trying to make her look bad by proving she lied. But… drag couldn’t know the promise was broken, because it was to have a conversation in private messages. Drag thought the third party involved was lying that Ada didn’t do it. Drag was trying to prove them wrong by showing the promise. Drag didn’t know that proving Ada made a promise would make her look bad.
Thank you, but drag thinks you’re wrong. Drag doesn’t think Ada is the forgiving type. The mistake drag made that lead to getting banned was trusting Ada would keep her promise. Like drag said, drag learned from it. No more trusting Ada.
Drag recognises that’s not a good foundation for reconciliation. But that’s what it feels like Ada was trying to teach drag with the ban. How else is drag supposed to interpret that?
While the atypical pronoun usage can be confusing, it obviously isn’t a personal attack against you.
Ever since drag started using neopronouns, drag has learned that confusing other people is an act of violence. They genuinely feel hurt by it. Drag is sure exactly why, but it might be an ego thing. Possibly drag is making other people feel stupid when they don’t understand. Whatever the cause is, it’s very clear when people talk about incidents where drag upset someone by using a neopronoun. Random bystanders who’ve never met drag before seem to overwhelmingly agree drag is rude, aggressive, confrontational, forcing the conversation… people could only react that way so strongly if they felt that they saw an attack.
At this point drag has just accepted that using drag’s pronouns is violent behaviour. And drag is going to keep doing it, because people who are uncomfortable seeing neopronouns deserve to feel that way. Either they convince the people in charge to punish drag, they keep on being uncomfortable forever, or they grow up. Drag wants the third to happen.
“I” is the most genderless pronoun in existence - is it not? It literally means me, as a singular human entity. Linguistically I am yet to see any valid argument for its exclusion or substitution in speech. I get the whole problem with he/her etc - there are a specific niche of humans where those words are not sufficient nor apt to describe them and thankfully language then evolved for the sake of inclusivity.
If Noel calls themself Noelself then Noel is not using a pronoun but rather Noel is referring to Noelself in the third person - and unnecessarily cluttering-up a sentence.
But, fuck Noel’s life, that’s just Noel’s opinion.
Drag knows a lot of nonhumans and decided to choose a first person pronoun for a dragon rider. After all, dragon riders aren’t entirely human. The magical bond changes us. And a dragon rider is no longer a single individual. Not in battle, not in soul. Drag is soulbound.
Is there any perceivable grammatical difference between that, and third person speech? You realize how confusing it is for people who hear third person speech every day but have never heard first person person-independent pronouns before, right?
How did you start using your neopronouns anyways? I don’t think I’ve ever seen you mention that before, and I’m curious.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t. I’m wondering why you would. Why choose (was it a choice?) these pronouns if you know they are likely to cause confusion and therefore conflict?
People tend to cringe at weirdos who try to impose their incredibly niche language choices onto others
Like that guy who insisted on speaking exclusively in older English spellings (and was, like drag, a massive troll that was successful for a shockingly long time)
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Drag apologised to Ada but she won’t unban drag :(. Drag was genuinely sorry. Misunderstood the situation, learned from the mistake.
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The reason why drag misunderstood the situation is because Ada broke a promise. Drag thought she kept it because drag trusted her. She thought drag was trying to make her look bad by proving she lied. But… drag couldn’t know the promise was broken, because it was to have a conversation in private messages. Drag thought the third party involved was lying that Ada didn’t do it. Drag was trying to prove them wrong by showing the promise. Drag didn’t know that proving Ada made a promise would make her look bad.
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Drag isn’t a dragon. Do you think you’ve seen a comment where drag says drag is a dragon? Please share it.
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Thank you, but drag thinks you’re wrong. Drag doesn’t think Ada is the forgiving type. The mistake drag made that lead to getting banned was trusting Ada would keep her promise. Like drag said, drag learned from it. No more trusting Ada.
Drag recognises that’s not a good foundation for reconciliation. But that’s what it feels like Ada was trying to teach drag with the ban. How else is drag supposed to interpret that?
Are we really going to discuss such personal issues in public without the other person present? To me this seems unprompted and very unethical.
Ada isn’t good at being the bigger person.
Don’t expect her to help find a resolution here.
Drag can’t discuss it with Ada. Drag’s banned. You can invite her to this conversation if you like. It would work if you messaged her
That doesn’t make it right to discuss it here. It’s the fediverse, why do you care if you’re banned? Just make an account somewhere else
What the fuck are you talking about? Are you referring to yourself in the third person? Is this supposed to be cute?
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I disagree. I don’t think I would have had any clue what was going on if drag had chosen a different pronoun.
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Ever since drag started using neopronouns, drag has learned that confusing other people is an act of violence. They genuinely feel hurt by it. Drag is sure exactly why, but it might be an ego thing. Possibly drag is making other people feel stupid when they don’t understand. Whatever the cause is, it’s very clear when people talk about incidents where drag upset someone by using a neopronoun. Random bystanders who’ve never met drag before seem to overwhelmingly agree drag is rude, aggressive, confrontational, forcing the conversation… people could only react that way so strongly if they felt that they saw an attack.
At this point drag has just accepted that using drag’s pronouns is violent behaviour. And drag is going to keep doing it, because people who are uncomfortable seeing neopronouns deserve to feel that way. Either they convince the people in charge to punish drag, they keep on being uncomfortable forever, or they grow up. Drag wants the third to happen.
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“I” is the most genderless pronoun in existence - is it not? It literally means me, as a singular human entity. Linguistically I am yet to see any valid argument for its exclusion or substitution in speech. I get the whole problem with he/her etc - there are a specific niche of humans where those words are not sufficient nor apt to describe them and thankfully language then evolved for the sake of inclusivity.
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I get to dictate exactly what I respect.
If Noel calls themself Noelself then Noel is not using a pronoun but rather Noel is referring to Noelself in the third person - and unnecessarily cluttering-up a sentence.
But, fuck Noel’s life, that’s just Noel’s opinion.
Drag knows a lot of nonhumans and decided to choose a first person pronoun for a dragon rider. After all, dragon riders aren’t entirely human. The magical bond changes us. And a dragon rider is no longer a single individual. Not in battle, not in soul. Drag is soulbound.
I’m reminded of a few nonhumans whom I know!
They’re called cats, and they similarly eat a lot of plastic.
Are we really going to let playing into complete delusion be part of the ethics that shape left wing progressive culture and politics?
We all know this user does not ride or fuck* or magically bond with a fucking dragon. It’s not something we should “respect”.
*(u/dragonfucker@lemmy.nz is their actual username, “Dragon Rider (drag)” is just a display name.)
Aye-aye, dream that dream. We all gotta reach for something.
No, drag is referring to dragself in first person using person-independent pronouns.
Is there any perceivable grammatical difference between that, and third person speech? You realize how confusing it is for people who hear third person speech every day but have never heard first person person-independent pronouns before, right?
How did you start using your neopronouns anyways? I don’t think I’ve ever seen you mention that before, and I’m curious.
Do you want drag to avoid confusing other people by exposing them to unfamiliar kinds of pronouns?
I’m not saying you shouldn’t. I’m wondering why you would. Why choose (was it a choice?) these pronouns if you know they are likely to cause confusion and therefore conflict?
They’ve done it on all the comments I’ve seen from them, I cringe hard every time.
Like a pretentious teenager getting off on the smell of their own farts
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You cringe when people use language differently than you?
People tend to cringe at weirdos who try to impose their incredibly niche language choices onto others
Like that guy who insisted on speaking exclusively in older English spellings (and was, like drag, a massive troll that was successful for a shockingly long time)
So drag using a word to refer to dragself is an imposition on you?
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