• KombatWombat@lemmy.world
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      You risk life and limb crossing the street. It is reasonable to take some precautions like looking both ways or waiting on a walk signal. It is not reasonable to assume every driver will swerve into you when they see an opportunity.

      Take care to prepare for the worst for your own safety, but don’t assume the worst in others.

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      Dating platforms are LIFE is crawling with predators

      he FTFY

      Edit: Just to add “predator” is not only the psycho that will kill/rape a woman. Any men that do not accept a NO, that thinks they are “playing hard to get”, that catcalls a woman in the streets, ta makes an unsolicited comment about their body, that thinks woman are ment to do whatever they want… any of those men are predators.

      Any men is a comment away from being a predator. Don’t be this man

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        What if someone were to say, start intentionally spreading rumors about men by claiming they had seen several women raped in their lives? For the sake of population control. That sounds like it would be very effective if I could find a large enough audience.

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      Of course it doesn’t feel great to think that people are uncomfortable and threatened just being aware that you are a single man who exists in the same environment, but if that’s how it’s gotta be, how do you successfully communicate that you are not a threat?

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        how do you successfully communicate that you are not a threat?

        I don’t.
        I’m not interested in socializing with discriminating cretins who deal in absolutes and i like my peace of mind.

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        but if that’s how it’s gotta be, how do you successfully communicate that you are not a threat?

        That’s what a predator would say.

        No, seriously, trust is built over time.

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          No, seriously, trust is built over time.

          Well yeah, obviously, but why would someone give you the opportunity if being around you makes them uncomfortable and threatened? It works the other way around too; I wouldn’t want to spend time with someone if it seems like doing so might be making them feel afraid, in that case I’m just going to stay away from them.

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            Pressure quite often. Social pressure, psychological pressure. It can be a form of de-escelation out of fear what would happen if you rejected the person. Not entirely the same situation, but that’s the reason I can’t say no that easily to my alcoholic brother’s shenanigans. Imagine what women go through on a daily basis

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              Makes sense, but there has to be a better way as that sounds awful, like it does not sound like your alcoholic brother is genuinely building trust with you that way.

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                No he doesn’t. But it’s the easiest way for me to cope and deal with the situation. I don’t have the patience or the mental fortitude to try and convince or convert my family to abstain from alcohol. I’d rather avoid the situation and look out for my own well-being than be exposed to their drinking. I know it’s not the healthiest strategy, but it’s what’s been helping me the past few years

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                  It is regarding population control. We got rid of our natural enemies so now we need to be our own enemy. Even with all those wars it’s not enough. A deadly world war or pandemic (or both combined) would be need.

                  Or we keep going and ultimately cause the runaway greenhouse effect, killing all life on this planet.

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      “Be patient out there gentlemen”

      Naahhh…just give up on finding anyone

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      Isn’t it hilarious that women VASTLY PREFER dating strangers than from within their own social sphere? The phenomenon of "But we’re friends! is a cliche for a reason.

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            Women turn down men they’re not attracted to. This has nothing to do with how long they’ve known each other. There is no such thing as the friend zone, just the you-are-not-attractive zone.

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            Okay, so the latter.

            Just because a cliché exist does not mean it’s actually true. People that are complaining about a lot on the Internet are maybe more likely to spend too much time on the Internet in general and by that are more likely to have a lack of social skills in the real world.

            To counter that anecdotally: in my social circle a lot couples spawned from a previous social connection and there are only a few that meet through dating apps or where a random hook up in the first place.

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            Turning down people isn’t something bad. It’s worse to end up with someone who don’t fit.

            Friendzone though is most often just not having guts to say that loud and clear.