• shawn1122@sh.itjust.works
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    9 days ago

    Sounds more like the musings of a hedonist than a badass. The incoordination and head trauma are not as far off brand as he thinks it is.

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      What do you have against hedonists? I think it’s pretty bad ass to be happy regardless of how others judge you.

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        That’s not what hedonism is. Hedonism is the pursuit of physical pleasure as the primary purpose in life. The problem with that is our brains are very good at moving our emotional goalposts to adapt to our circumstances, so we end up chasing greater and greater pleasures in a process called the “hedonic treadmill.”

        Billionaires are a good example of this. They get their kicks from watching their bank account go up and acquiring new things. But their brains quickly adapt to the new “normal”, and then they need a higher number or newer thing. It’s never enough.

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          That’s my definition as well. I’ve drawn different conclusions, though. Hedonism, nihmism, etc… they’ve all gotten a bad name because of Edge lords who burn out. You don’t have to be over consumeristic or do copious amounts of drugs. That would go AGAINST hedonism because you’ll be unable to pursue pleasure in the future. It doesn’t have to be an immediate payoff.

          You’re upset with people who are short-sighted, not hedonists. Those things aren’t exclusive, but I think you catch my drift.

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          It doesn’t have to be physical pleasure, one can be hedonistic in their pursuit of love or learning, or anything that brings pleasures.

          But the key is to challenge the restraints that a society which walks through life miserable in all regards impose upon us. It is the breaking of those restraints where hedonism is found.

          I’ve known quite a few hedonists and have a great deal of love and respect for them. In part because I never had the bravery required to truly go that path. And the other part where they find themselves broken, hollowed out, unemployed, or addicted. Or even worse deeply cynical. I’ve lost many friends to the tail end of a life of extremes.

          Every hedonists thinks there is some trick to the life that they alone get right, and each of them is wrong and right in their own way.

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          You forgot to throw Epstein and child fucking into this hedonistic treadmill that billionaires get on

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        A lot of what we define as pleasurable in this part of the world is driven by consumerism or other environmentally unsustainably/harmful activity. If your pleasurable activities account for your impact on all living things then by all means knock yourself out. Most hedonists I’ve known do not demonstrate this degree of introspection and often are looking for fleeting pleasures to mask trauma or other mental health challenges.

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        It’s a fine philosophy but it’s hard to make it last. Most hedonists either burn out or become cynics.

        There is a balance where you are always at the edge of hedonism, just close but not quite offsides. But almost inevitably there is that fall.

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        I’m sure the ghost of Jeffery Epstein appreciates your support.

        I will generally not fault someone for what they like, but engaging in whatever it is without regard for others is not a recipe for a good society. Sure, don’t care what everyone thinks, but there are plenty of reasons to not do something that would bring you pleasure.

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            If you don’t understand how uncritically engaging in hedonism is bad for society as a whole, I don’t know what else to add. You’re the one advocating for doing whatever you like with no regard for others.

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              Your concept of Hedonism is uncritical and severely narrow. It is a broad term that encompasses lots of philosophies. For instance social hedonism is about minimizing pain and maximizing pleasure at a societal level. Chasing immediate pleasure for oneself is a popculture definition.

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                I said “uncritically engaging in hedonism” is bad. Uncritically engaging in almost anything is bad, but they had said “it’s pretty bad ass to be happy regardless of how others judge you” and that does not make any distinction between what does and does not negatively impact others. I have a concept of hedonism, sure, but I did not state it in any of my comments. I’m responding to that persons idea which seems to have no regard for others.

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    That’s sort of sidestepping and deliberately misinterpreting the question. Sure, there are the dumbasses who thing “this thing feels good, therefore it must be bad!” But that’s not what most people think of when they think of a “guilty pleasure”.

    A guilty pleasure is like, eg, drinking a beer. Drinking is bad for your health. In moderation, your long term health probably won’t be significantly impacted, but presuming you care about your health, you probably also care about other aspects of living a healthy lifestyle. For example, maybe you play pickup soccer in the park, and find you have more fun when you are more in shape, since you can run faster and farther without having to catch your breath. Drinking will lower your aerobic capacity the next day, and will impair your recovery - you know that you are happier in general when you don’t drink. But then a friend invites you over, and it’s been a stressful day, and they offer you a beer, and you say to yourself “I know that I will be happier in the future if I stay sober. But right now I really want this beer. Fuck it.” And then you wake up the next morning with a hangover and say “that was dumb, why did I do that?”

    The “guilt” in guilty pleasure doesn’t have to be based on arcane moral codes. It can just be guilt about doing something we know is against our own best interests, by the standards we set for ourselves.

    Saying you don’t feel guilty about your pleasures either means that you never do this (ie, you’re a liar), or else it means that you literally put no stock in the future (ie, you’re a dumbass), or that you are so insecure that you are trying to sidestep the question because you can’t bring yourself to admit you have any flaws.

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    Wow. They aped after Corey Taylor circa 2005. Atleast he had something to lose considering how metal viewed other styles of music back then.

    Admitting that you liked pop or even a pop-song could actually have killed his credibility.

    This just sounds like an obnoxious person that kills social interaction for fun.