Context: We’re in a bit of a heat wave and my daughter loves to cool down by splashing in water. Today was no different.
Once she was done, I say to her “Let’s get you out of that wet dress. I imagine it must be uncomfortable. I’ve never actually worn a wet dress before”.
Before I can follow that up with “I’ve worn wet clothes before, and that’s not the nicest”, my wife jumps in and claims that me saying I’ve never worn a wet dress is sexist.
Is it?
🤣
This is either AI slop or your wife is a lunatic.
What? No that’s not sexist
Classic. It’s only sexist if you are sexist. If you assume dresses are ‘womens’ clothes,’ and that women are inferior, it’s possibly sexist because you are elevating yourself by declaring yourself to not be one of those lowly dress-wearers. If you don’t have that internalized misogyny, it’s just a statement of boring fact.
She might be conflating it with a wet t-shirt contest
Is this r/AITA and r/AmIOverreacting in a trenchcoat?
Pretty sure that’s 3 raccoon in a trench coat
… in a wet dress
what?
I could see some sort of connection between, like, there’s a pickup line where a guy would dip his fingers in a glass of water and flick a few drops of water on a girls clothes, and then tell the woman, “hey, let’s get you out of those wet clothes”, but I don’t see anything inherently sexist in what you said.
Maybe she is making that connection in her mind and just having a difficult time expressing it to you cogently.
That ‘pickup line’ sounds like a great way to make enemies.
Most pickup lines are unless you’re hot.
No, yes, it was even considered a bad pickup line back in the 80s or 70s or whenever the movie i saw that had that pickup line in it was made.
Like the whole point of the thing was to show the viewer what a douchebag this guy was so that when the main character showed up and wasn’t a douchebag by comparison, you would go, “hey, that guy’s not a douchebag, you should pick him over the douchebag.”
Ask her to explain what’s sexist about saying that.
Is it sexist to say “I’ve never worn wet Billy Bob brand underwear”?
Sounds to me like she has some hangups.
Also, did you mean it to be sexist? No? Then it wasn’t. She’s decided to hear it that way and lay some nonsense on you.
Honestly, had that been me, I would’ve busted out laughing at the inanity.
…I think your wife wants to dress you up in dresses?
You’re probably focusing on the wrong thing. My guess is that while you think she was reacting to what you said, she was probably reacting to something else. For example, if you have boys who wore wet clothes without comment, or if you yourself have worn wet clothes without complaint, she might think it sexist to presume a female is required to be more modest than a male. She might have thought you were acting as if your immature child was vamping like she was in a wet t-shirt contest rather than a squirmy toddler (no idea what age your girl is, tho) and that your reaction was too embarrassed. It could have been a number of things, but you’d have to ask her to find out.
