A trans parent would likely still want to be called “Mom” or “Dad”, I assume. At least that’s the case with the few trans parents I know.
Parents don’t usually use “daughter” or “son” as pronouns, so I don’t think it would come up with non-binary children.
Do children of non-binary parents call their parents by their first name? It seems unlikely that they say “Parent, may I please have more screen time?”.
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Is this a real question?
They would just call them by their name or by a nickname. Or by mom or dad if the parents don’t care about that.
i mean, this is the real answer yeah. but i’m liking @Nemo@slrpnk.net’s answer and will begin enforcing ‘honored ancestor’ instead of my name.
edit: if it doesnt like properly this time it’s never going to…
so I don’t think it would come up with non-binary children
You’d be surprised 😅
Yeah. I had to carefully word my dad’s obituary to not gender me–I wasn’t out yet, but it would have added more pain to the event if I’d been misgendered in it. Luckily, I have a sibling, so I able to rework the first draft from “survived by his son ___ and daughter ___” to be “survived by his children __ and __”.
Anyways, if I had a kid I think I’d just go by my name, or any nickname they came up with. I called my binary parents by their names so it doesn’t feel weird to me.
I just mean that I don’t often hear parents addressing their kids as “Son” except in '50s media! I’m sure it happens.
But people do tell others about their sons or daughters
Absolutely, but then you can say “my kid” or something instead of “my daughter”. Using “child” as a title is different than using it as a pronoun standing in for their name.
Good point!
Thank you. It’s very rare that I make one!
Yeah my kids are mostly kids when I talk about them
I’m in my 30’s and my Dad still refers to me as “kiddo” sometimes.
They use a mixture of “MOM” and “DAD” and call them “MAD”.
Just a silly joke. I have no opinion.
So that’s where madam comes from
I’ve heard “Mawpaw” for a bigender person before which sounds kind of delightfully southern.
Your comment and the resulting chain are all excellent suggestions!
No you have it backwards, it’s DOM. As in, “I was bad so my dom had to punish me.”
DAM!
“mather” or “fother”
I’d imagine that this is something that varies from family to family.
“oi! Fuckface!”
I should call her.
Sometimes I miss australia.
That would be fun at parent-teacher conferences!
my son calls me baba. i’ve met other enby parents that use the same term. i originally heard it on blues clues lol
That’s very cute!
Baba Is You!
and what about enby grandparents?
Sure, same idea.
Grandy seems an easy choice.
I was wondering the other day why gran is always the grandma not the grandpa
I would expect it’s a shortening of “granny” not grandma (or grandmother) directly.
My aunt was raised by her grandfather and called him Grandy. Everyone has called him that since.
Parental unit
Beep boop robo-Clay approves.
'nit for short
Zaza.
Gabor!
If I were a nonbinary parent, I’d definitely go with “elder”.
“Your Highness”
I could dig it.
People will think you’re Mormon
One of my friends has a mom and a nom. Works well enough.
Short for mother and nother?
Love it.
“Honored Ancestor” and “Blessed Forebear” are always appropriate.
Much respectful. So parent.
Nonbinary household with conservative upbringing. That would certainly blow the mind of certain people.
“Excuse me, honored ancestor, I need to defecate” - Timmy, 5 years old
Obviously it combines Mother and Father, or: M’F’er
🤭
I don’t know how I missed this. Obviously you have the correct answer!
I mean, that can be misunderstood. Better to mix mom and dad into … “dom” … or why not “mad”?
Isn’t that technically all biological dads?
The existence of the term “biological dad” implies the existence of an “artificial dad”
I would say that an artificial dad is the partner of a married single mom.
Adopted dads are technically artificial dads.
What about step dads?
In which context? They’re probably MFers too. If you mean artificial or biological… Could be either, but let’s go with 3rd party replacements.
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Probably depends on the kid. In the right house with the right mindset I bet parents could use first names. Otherwise it will probably be a special word to all of them, maybe something the kid calls them one day that sticks.
Maybe the parents will look to the internet or peers for answers and get stuff like “guardian” “my other parent” etc but ultimately the real question you should ask is how a child addresses their two same-gendered parents, maybe there’s something to contexutalize there.
I was going to say it’s definitely a case by case basis and what both parents and kids are comfortable with. With same-gender couples, I’ve often seen with my friends using two different gendered honorifics, like “mom” and “mama” or “dad” and “papa”.
With trans people, often times it depends on when they came out. If before the child was born, or they were really young, I know a lot of parents will switch what they use, but for many people the title becomes something beyond gender. I’ve met a trans woman who transitioned later in life and was still “dad” to her kids because her role as a dad didn’t invalidate her gender as a woman. In the same vein, I’ve known nonbinary folk who have kept “mom” or “dad” after coming out, went with a less traditional title, or even just made one up either something fun and ungendered (think something like “babi”). I’ve also heard people just using a diminutive of they’re name, like rather than the kid saying “my parent, Sam” it becomes “my Sammy”.
The fun thing about language is that it changes to fit the needs of people and groups, so we can just make it up as we go!
Very individualized as per need. Non-binary is an umbrella term for a whole bunch of different situations so what feels right is going to be very different for someone who feels like say a mix of masculine and feminine versus someone who has dysphoric reactions to any and all gender markers. It’s going to be different for someone whose identity is more static than say someone who fluidly bounces between extremes.
If you know someone who is non-binary that’s essentially just the tip of the iceberg of a whole discussion about how they personally interact with their body or the culture of gender. A lot of people seem to treat it as a full stop third category which can actually be a disservice to a non-binary person because it oftentimes just leads to a lot of new assumptions and frames out some of the ways they could be better treated than just as automatically genderless. I’ve heard of mixes of Mom/Dad for bigender people, just Mom or Dad for trans masc/femme folk, Completely new words that do not have cultural baggage, or just “my parent”. It’s not a one size fits all situation.
I appreciate the thoughtful reply.
