A trans parent would likely still want to be called “Mom” or “Dad”, I assume. At least that’s the case with the few trans parents I know.
Parents don’t usually use “daughter” or “son” as pronouns, so I don’t think it would come up with non-binary children.
Do children of non-binary parents call their parents by their first name? It seems unlikely that they say “Parent, may I please have more screen time?”.
Tangential, but my wife is nonbinary and I still call them my wife. They’re okay with it. And I don’t mean to be lewd, but in bed they like to be called Daddy instead of Mommy. My point is that it’s probably a case by case thing without a universal and some nonbinary folks don’t mind some gendered terms. It might even be context based.
Interesting! Thank you for sharing.
My niece is non-binary and we run into this issue. Now, I just ask people who identify as non-binary. “When there isn’t a good non-binary term to use, do you prefer me to use male or female words?”
So far, the non-binary people I’ve asked seem to appreciate the question.
I’m sure they do.
I think the gender inclusive term for niece and nephew is “nibling”, which sounds like a Pokemon!
My nephew has a dad and a mawpa, but there are lots of options out there. It’s wise to choose syllable sounds that babies can easily pronounce.
i am not sure, but what i think i read somewhere is “ren” (as in pa"ren"t), so you would go like my ren dropped me to school or something.
That sounds cool too.
Closest Ancestor
The words “mom” and “dad” are both derived from baby babble, syllables babies have an easy time making.
I therefore suggest that an enby parent should be a child’s wawa
I like this. It would be awesome to be named after a gas station chain.
Show some respect.
It’s a convenience store/deli/sometimes gas station, and it has the best Thanksgiving sandwich you can order, pay for, and pick up without a single word to a human (and usually in less than 5 minutes).
My humblest apologies!
“Commander”
My friend’s father transitioned to a woman but she kept calling her “Dad”. Not to invalidate her identity just that they were both happy to continue describing their relationship with that term.
I read the title as a programming question at first…
Hah!
Hello 4D 6F 6D 6D 79Lil sis got a memory leak
CVE-2025-j - Data leak due to uninitialized variable for children of non-binary parents
Children referring to non-binary parents may use uninitialized variable in speech when referring to the parent. This can expose personal information when referring to the non-binary parent. All children who are users of the English language are potentially vulnerable. Children who already have a preferred title for their parent are unaffected. To mitigate this the parent and child should discuss what preferred title the child should use.
Due to the extreme widespread usage of the English language and the difficulty with patching, there is unlikely to be a comprehensive fix for this soon.
I’d say go Borg and be 1 of 3
Of Unimatrix 007
“hello parent”
Could be.
Obviously it combines Mother and Father, or: M’F’er
🤭
Isn’t that technically all biological dads?
The existence of the term “biological dad” implies the existence of an “artificial dad”
I would say that an artificial dad is the partner of a married single mom.
Adopted dads are technically artificial dads.
I don’t think that’s really true.
Dad is a title, bestowed by anyone for any reason.
“Biological dad” may have a specific meaning, but “dad” does not.
What about step dads?
In which context? They’re probably MFers too. If you mean artificial or biological… Could be either, but let’s go with 3rd party replacements.
I mean, that can be misunderstood. Better to mix mom and dad into … “dom” … or why not “mad”?
I don’t know how I missed this. Obviously you have the correct answer!
Very individualized as per need. Non-binary is an umbrella term for a whole bunch of different situations so what feels right is going to be very different for someone who feels like say a mix of masculine and feminine versus someone who has dysphoric reactions to any and all gender markers. It’s going to be different for someone whose identity is more static than say someone who fluidly bounces between extremes.
If you know someone who is non-binary that’s essentially just the tip of the iceberg of a whole discussion about how they personally interact with their body or the culture of gender. A lot of people seem to treat it as a full stop third category which can actually be a disservice to a non-binary person because it oftentimes just leads to a lot of new assumptions and frames out some of the ways they could be better treated than just as automatically genderless. I’ve heard of mixes of Mom/Dad for bigender people, just Mom or Dad for trans masc/femme folk, Completely new words that do not have cultural baggage, or just “my parent”. It’s not a one size fits all situation.
I appreciate the thoughtful reply.
“Honored Ancestor” and “Blessed Forebear” are always appropriate.
Much respectful. So parent.
Nonbinary household with conservative upbringing. That would certainly blow the mind of certain people.
“Excuse me, honored ancestor, I need to defecate” - Timmy, 5 years old
my son calls me baba. i’ve met other enby parents that use the same term. i originally heard it on blues clues lol
Baba Is You!
That’s very cute!
