• Tarquinn2049@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    One way to understand them better is to occasionally talk. Cuz like, guys and girls are actually incredibly similar. A couple of conversations a day, with the occasional really good conversation, can go a very long way towards understanding each other. Everything you don’t talk about is one more thing you won’t understand.

      • Tarquinn2049@lemmy.world
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        1 month ago

        I’m not hoping the person from 4 chan is also in here, just giving general advice for anyone reading it now.

        • baines@lemmy.cafeEnglish
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          1 month ago

          me as well, it’s not so uncommon, communication is key while true is such a trite idea and ignores all nuance of reality

    • Who knew?@sh.itjust.works
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      1 month ago

      Its true. I wondered why I didn’t feel like girls were any different from me and why I had a hard time understanding both girls and boys, then I learned I was trans and autistic

  • jet@hackertalks.comEnglish
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    1 month ago

    Wanted you to fight for her affection. Time to separate and run away

    This will NOT be the last test their partner does. Relationship tests are toxic.

    • ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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      1 month ago

      Relationship tests are toxic.

      Hah. The woman I was briefly married to really wanted me to be jealous, but I didn’t realize that at the time. I was just happy for her whenever she told be about her great friends who happened to be men.

      This culminated when she told me it wasn’t fair that I had had other sexual partners in my life but she had not. I replied that if she was asking me for an open relationship and it was really important to her, then it would be something we could discuss. That was not what she wanted to hear.

      She was not a nice person (to put it mildly) so I don’t regret being so clueless.

        • ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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          1 month ago

          I divorced her after six months of marriage a long time ago. I’m embarrassed by that, but my mistake was in marrying her, not in ending the marriage so quickly. I’m proud that I had the courage to leave.

          I do wonder if there was anything I should have done differently which would have made the marriage work, but I’m more confident about my decision to leave after a more recent ex of hers found me so that he could tell me that she was a “horrible psychopath” who ruined his life. Apparently he knew my name because she told him how bad I had been to her, and after their breakup he suspected that she had been lying.

          As for right now: I’m single but it’s 100% true that being single is better than being in a bad relationship.

    • pflanzenregal@lemmy.world
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      1 month ago

      Yeah I’d rather bet that he is kinda emotionally disconnected from anything happening with her (and himself).

      So she probably never feels supported, tried to talk about, didn’t work, finally divorced him but loves him too much to actually go through with it.

  • Doom@ttrpg.network
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    1 month ago

    Anon is emotionally stunted and this person really loves them but doesn’t feel it back. Anon needs to express themselves better

  • 2ugly2live@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    1 month ago

    I remember this post. Same opinion still. Not the best course of action, but I wonder if it was a last ditch effort for him to give a fuck, which he doesn’t seem to, and that broke her heart. Not that that means she did the right thing, but with all the comments patting anon on the back for dodging a bullet, I’ll give one to the lady for conforming that Anon doesn’t love her like she thinks/wants. Hopefully they’ll both find someone that makes them happy.

    • DSTGU@sopuli.xyz
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      1 month ago

      When being taught that no is supposed to mean no I dont believe there is any other appropriate reaction to being given the divorce papers

      • 2ugly2live@lemmy.worldEnglish
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        1 month ago

        Yeah, for sure. If you tell someone you want to call things off, you gotta be prepared for that “sure.” Definitely wasn’t her best move.

        Doesn’t mean I can’t have some empathy for her, even if I don’t agree. Humans do crazy, sometimes even terrible things, out of hurt and love. Us humans are pretty flawed. 😅

    • Kyrgizion@lemmy.world
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      1 month ago

      Civil unions work like that over here. I could walk into town hall tomorrow and tell them I want to separate from my SO and all I need is my autograph, not even hers.

      • ilega_dh@feddit.nl
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        1 month ago

        And that’s how it should work right? Nobody should be allowed to keep someone hostage in a “relationship”.

        • the_crotch@sh.itjust.works
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          1 month ago

          Marriage isn’t just a relationship, it’s a financial partnership. It’s complicated to dissolve because money and shared property are complicated. Fortunately it’s easy to avoid. Don’t get married, and if you want to end a relationship you can simply walk out the door without a word anytime you want.

    • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works
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      1 month ago

      It is though, if it’s amicable. It only gets complicated if you disagree on who gets what.

      If there aren’t kids or pets involved, just hire an arbiter and be done with it in a day.