I totally get that, but I just feel we have to do our part to stop pushing that narrative or at least explain it. It’s not like men are stupid by default and can’t be trusted in the public. It should have been an “FYI” mind of thing, instead of a decree.

Usually those places are lacking (unfortunately). Food deserts, lack of infrastructure, sometimes even poor medical facilities. Also, locations like these tend to be more conservative, and conservatives are not always the most friendly. I personally did move to a smaller area, but I don’t have a family/kids so I’m able to be more indifferent towards the lack of resources. (I also moved to the hood 👀)

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That’s actually even worse 😬

Men don’t have to be the ones asking, but I was responding to the idea that men can’t approach women by default. Either gender can shoot their shot.

And those women can have a preference for a more “traditional” role, it just means they need to be aware that not every guy they meet is going to be cool with that and that may mean making a choice down the line. The idea is that two people are in a relationship that works for them and everyone is safe and respected. So, yes, it’s okay for people to have that preference. The issue is forcing your preference to be the standard.

I would honestly say your friend misunderstood the message as well if that was her takeaway.

If they were both drunk, could either of them consent?

And his victim wasn’t also young and talented? Are they concerned about how the victim will go on when this fucker walks back on campus?

So many comments echoing “women told us to stop approaching us, so we did!”

I mean no offense, truly, but you missed the point if that’s the message you took. It wasn’t “Do not, under any circumstances, speak to a woman” it was, “if you shoot your shot and she’s not interested, move on and don’t make it weird. If she is at work, be very careful as customer service does not equal flirting.” Yes, there are some grey areas (not sure even the best gentleman could slide up to a woman alone in a parking lot and not freak her out), but some of you are kicking up the board without even moving a piece. Stop pushing the narrative that only attractive men can speak to women. Not only are you assuming you’re not attractive by saying that (which cannot be good for your confidence) , you’re reducing women’s feelings and concerns as being blindly shallow and unwarranted.

The world is not full of only beautiful people, yet people still live and love. Not to dismiss the difficulties (as an uggo myself, I get it), but you can get out there, I know you can.

It’s because it has that “80/20” energy some like to push. Not so much a complaint on dating overall, only the “women only one six feet, six figures, six inches” narrative.

You have to also look at the fact that men outnumber women on the app overall. It’s about 65% men, so women are going to have a bigger pool to reject from. And while it is true that women rate men less attractive, they also put less value on their apperence overall as a factor in dating. It also came out that this was based off of first glance only with no review of the profiles attached to them and, when looking at overall trends, it’s more even, (outside of men tending to like young women regardless of their age).

I think the okcupid data also went on about how certain races get more or less attention as well. At the end of the day, both sides can be picky. I think people like to push that data to help with the “80/20” idea to help push this idea that men are now being unfairly judged in comparison to women to help with the gender war narrative.

Edit: Just wanted to add that I don’t think that means dating isn’t hard for men, but I just don’t believe dating websites to be a reflection of real life.

I’m this way with knitting VS crochet, as well as watching if someone is actually knitting or “knitting.”

A man has to comfort his son and be ready to accept that he and his son could be hit because * checks notes* - Ah, yes, for “peace.”

Use me for parts. Donate me to a school, use whatever organs are usable, then bury the rest somewhere it can be good fertilizer. Or burn it. I won’t be here to complain 🤷🏿‍♀️

Oh boy, I definitely want kids now. 🙄

That’s an awesome idea! It would make it so much easier for people.

The idea is it would be forgiven and then education would be free or highly subsidized. It’s middle class and lower class that are hardest hit by these loans as it is. Upper class children either don’t need the loans or take our less. Yes, it’s frustrating to be customer 99 instead of 100, but, I mean, grow up. Education is planting seeds in a garden we’ll likely not live to see, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t till the soil just so the next generation has it as difficult as we did. Taxes are going up as it is, I would rather it at least be going towards something meaningful for a change. Free education. Free health care. I’m already paying for it. You’re already paying for it. I want what we paid for.

In glad you don’t have loans. Some people are not able to get higher education without loans due to a variety of factors. I don’t know why you’re comfortable calling what are likely teenagers gullible or ignorant when the loans are predatory by nature, and are likely handling their very first “adult” purchase.

Education should not only be accessible to the wealthy. Middle class America has bailed out the banks, companies “too big” to fail, even other countries. Middle class America paid for PPP loans and forgiveness. We have bailed out billionaires over and over, but college is crossing the line?

I want my taxes to pay for education. And not just education that “makes sense.” I want to pay for one kid’s gender studies with a minor in dead languages, as well as the kid going for oncology. I don’t want anyone to question getting an education because of the price. An educated society is an investment for everyone. The American people are deserving of the taxes that they pay into.

I like that “it takes a village” means bringing your child to work, and not having the support to either have someone/some facility watch your child if you chose to work, or having actual paternity leave. Nor does it mean being paid enough that if you had to just not work, you and yours wouldn’t be in the street.

How inspiring.

We’re making toilet paper. “Richest” country in the world, and we’re making toilet paper.

I have one of those stone bath mats. I’ve never like the plush ones, so I’d have a whole floor of this if I could.