I mean, in a way its kinda not. I use to laugh at all the FloridaMan stuff but having watched the amount of law stuff and knowing the politics that led to what places like Florida are actually like today, theres nothing funny about it really.

People who choose to live in Florida and vote with their dollars deserve whatever scorn that can be heaped on them. But I try to reserve judgement until I know someone has made that conscious choice voluntarily before I let it rip

Dammit, Assy

You probably dont want things to actually interoperate with Meta, they’re not exactly trustworthy

Nurse Patchit

If you put them in the trash there’s 0

I was sort of getting at that. The tricky part is people will almost never treat you better than 1. You treat and present yourself and 2. How you assert you are to be treated by them.

You can start small tho. Try to not say sorry for anything thats not an actual sorry-worthy accident or mistake for a day. Thats it

Is there any way you can get your son involved so you can also pass that down to him and give him that extra head start on valuing working out and taking care of himself like you’re modelling for him currently?

Do you think it might be simpler for them to look for the trailheads as an easier introduction to IFS?

Trailheads honestly seem to me to be the simplest path to getting into IFS and its such a practical, simple practice…

I dont think this set of facts has ever aligned in the history of…forever

Thats sort of disingenuous and also inauthentic tho. Its really not helping anyone when you affirm non-existsnt grievances

What would happen if you just… didnt and just did your business? Why are the apologies needed?

It can be problematic when there’s no established actual violation and you simply go along with whoever is doing the demanding…

People who demand apologies are seldom the type who actually deserve apologies. Discernment is quite necessary here, if you apologize unduly, you are setting a pattern that helps establish the response they expect even when they act unreasonably or uncivilly.

Only if you’re advising on how to close all the bullshit loopholes you’ve exploited preventing them from being used further.

Im beyond glad to hear that about boundaries and having that breakthru for both of you in coming to understand that. Its a very rare thing honestly, its like the holy grail of mental health and overall wellness in my very humble findings

Keep going whenever you like by replying above this level so you can make a list for yourself to peruse whenever you need a boost for yourself and others can jump in if they have something helpful to supplement that

Aside, lots of people end up with little or zero eventual relationship with their children because they dont realize how kids grow up and start having a choice and being able to curate their associations to the ones that allow them to feel safe and valued. Sounds like youre way ahead of the game on that one

Lets start now and you can come back to it however long that takes

Are you able to recognize what you’ve done right and well?

FORD?