I’m often disappointed with myself when I’m angry. It feels like, “a stronger person wouldn’t be mad at this” or “I’m fragile/insecure”. Anger has been the hardest emotion to live with; it just feels wrong.

I always need external validation from others during/after anger. And worse, I need an endless supply of it.

Learning to validate myself is the obvious solution but I don’t have a clue where to start. A self-help book would just sit on a shelf. Do you have any tips?

  • stinky@redlemmy.comOPEnglish
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    10 days ago

    I’m proud of the relationship I have with my son. After many difficult years we’ve reached a place of mutual respect and we’re both comfortable (and knowledgeable) about each other’s boundaries.

    …I’m gonna grab my journal

    thank you <3

    • sopularity_fax@sopuli.xyz
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      10 days ago

      Im beyond glad to hear that about boundaries and having that breakthru for both of you in coming to understand that. Its a very rare thing honestly, its like the holy grail of mental health and overall wellness in my very humble findings

      Keep going whenever you like by replying above this level so you can make a list for yourself to peruse whenever you need a boost for yourself and others can jump in if they have something helpful to supplement that

      Aside, lots of people end up with little or zero eventual relationship with their children because they dont realize how kids grow up and start having a choice and being able to curate their associations to the ones that allow them to feel safe and valued. Sounds like youre way ahead of the game on that one

      • stinky@redlemmy.comOPEnglish
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        10 days ago

        Thanks for the insight, and gentle instructions, you seem like good people

        I may @ you in some of my posts, but please don’t feel obligated to reply, it’s mostly just for visibility, although I would appreciate any feedback when your schedule permits

        Thanks again, be safe and happy