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Cake day: January 20th, 2025

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  • Sorry for you to go through this. I also had parents that always put me down and never encouraged me any way, but at least they didn’t do the comparing thing, that must have hurt.

    Just do your own thing and i would recommend trying to set boundaries with your parents - at least your dad seems to try to respect them (asking you if he might tell the high school coach), and i think his comment about you coming a long way was him acknowledging the hard work and motivation you put in, at least i read it that way - expressing stuff like that might not be his strong suit. Your mom might be a different beast tho.

    If your mom’s involvement in your activities is detrimental to your mental wellbeing, you might wanna tell her to stop talking like that about you, or you keep her out of the loop if you can. I don’t know if you are still living with them, and your options depend a lot on how dependent you are from them.

    (Also, please try using paragraphs. it really helps with readability of longer posts)


  • I mean, i can relate to the feeling that technological advancement doesn’t fulfill a life and that there must be something else, but irrationality and hostility cannot be the answer - I believe that it IS a personal decision, but it excludes taking away rights from others or threatening them with throwing them from helicopters.

    Also, for those two it was a conscious decision, but their children do not have the luxury to decide for themselves what to believe in, taking away their right to decide - so in total i cannot condone their behavior or lifestyle.

    I grew up in a christian family, but not deeply religious. I had the pleasure of learning of all religions in school, even if there was a surplus of christian influence in school, i learnt of all the options. I decided that all of them were wrong; those kids will never know of another option until it’s time to give them something to hate.