That is true, but it still doesn’t seem like an excuse that she hurt OP and didn’t communicate to her how she felt respectfully.

Even if she did cut off contact, it seems this person is harassing her regardless. I agree that it’s better to cut contact though, assuming she did?

she “hates threesomes”

Fine, I guess. This sounds like a boundary (of someone who’s monogamous) but the way she reacted makes it sound like you asked her out. If she tries to make it seem like you’re being actually romantic with her, it’s weird and it reminds me of those bullies who think “Oh, you’re a lesbian? OMG SHE HAS A CRUSH ON ME EW!” (Especially since you have stated before that you’re a lesbian/bi)

too “disgusting” to flirt with

Not ok.

we “weren’t close enough to be friends” even though she finds me “too inferior” to even try and be my friend.

I’d be glad she doesn’t consider me a friend. What an ableist creep.

she tries to be friends with my friends in a weird way, such as being overly nice and touching their shoulder/head, and it has been reported several times that she is somewhat creepy towards children irl and especially online and will go out of her way to follow and “befriend” children under 13 on social media apps.

Harassing you and obsessed with pre-pubescent kids. 🤢

she has also defended people who like children romantically and saying that their romance should be okay.

I don’t call your run-of-the-mill jerk a pedo to insult them, but I think she IS. Anyone who talks to minors to “be their friend” and supports the romance between someone under 12 and someone over 18 is probably one themselves. There’s a difference between her behavior and people who are kind to children as a babysitter, teacher, etc. And people like that (teachers and stuff) probably don’t want to befriend children and get their personal info.

she thinks i’m disgusting or inferior because of my disabilities. she’s nice to everyone else regardless of their disability, but they either have adhd or autism + adhd so maybe autism + bipolar isn’t “one of the good diagnoses”.

False ally, she’s trying to look good. Often these people will say they support people with disabilities but it’s only the ones that are “good” or “interesting”, so to speak. They’ll even say they support autism but will hate you and never speak to you again the second you show signs of it and start to unmask around them. People who only support “good diagnoses” are fake and gross.

She has in the past, the bully finds a way to pin it on her.

She may be bullied, she apparently has a strict family and is obsessed with appearance.

She acts really weird, she’s very nice to everyone else and in public but acts this way only towards my sister.

She apparently has NPD and strict parents (she is half-Mexican and half-black and said that she has a very strict culture)

What upset you so much about it?

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The writer may not natively speak English

Is it possible the writer doesn’t natively speak english?

Oh my God, this MF has a Lemmy account…

No, she (an adult) is weirdly obsessed with a boy (a MINOR) 6 years younger than him. This is effing disgusting and I can’t interpret it any other way. Her wanting to be shipped (which is typically a ROMANTIC pairing) with this boy coupled with wanting to go on a double date with him (“dates” can technically be platonic but not in this context) is weird and definitely romantic.

I’m 24 and wouldn’t even date someone 6 years younger despite them being technically legal. For me it’s 20+, but FREAKING 14!?

Probably just wants advice as an 18-year-old.

It’s also likely if he didn’t tell other people about you, that he didn’t tell other love interests about you and therefore cheated

It seems very common with progressive straight women I’ve seen

That’s very true!!

Honestly, with the friend example, she can imagine dating women, but it doesn’t mean she would/likes them that way. She’s still straight. Plus, it’s very rare to be 100% attracted to one gender anyway, but sexuality is a spectrum, and it’s still straight.

I’m a lesbian sexually. I haven’t tried sex with a man. I can imagine doing it, but I’ve only felt sexually attracted to my girlfriend, who’s obviously a woman. Despite being a lesbian, it doesn’t mean I’m 100% only sexually attracted to women and can’t even imagine doing it with a dude. It’s a fluid spectrum that changes over time.

And the other girl who this post is about may be like our friend (Mine and hers). She can imagine dating women and wouldn’t object (because it’s rare to be 100% attracted to only one gender), but since she can’t find a woman who attracts her and only men give her a spark, she might be straight, bicurious, or at least biromantic heterosexual. Still, in order to be biromantic/bisexual, you have to feel romantic or sexual attraction to both genders, and what she said contradicts that, as she seems to feel romantic and sexual attraction towards the opposite gender. (Straight)

I have no idea, it’s either because she finds women aesthetically pleasing or she thinks finding a woman pretty = being attracted to women even though “I can’t find women that attract me” contradicts being into women.

I have another friend who could imagine dating a woman and also didn’t find them attractive. She was straight.

You like men but would be interested in dating women although they don’t attract you right now or…?

That’s pretty cool though :3