The difference is that pubs and nightclubs are not exclusively for people who are looking to meet other people. People go there with friends, to have a good time. Not so much with online dating sites.
I’ve never understood the appeal of meeting people at bars. If you want to build a relationship with someone, why not do it with someone you already know? Ask out a coworker or classmate or something. Why approach random people in bars purely based on their appearance?
Dating is all about going places you don’t like to meet people so also don’t want to be there, which makes literally any other option more appealing.
My SO and I met at a dance. I didn’t want to be there, and my SO thought it was tacky, so we had something immediately in common when I walked over to talk.
It’s a weird, unspoken cultural thing. If I go somewhere to have fun, I’m not interested in meeting new people, I’m interested in the activity.
And then there are people like me, who don’t have the biggest friend group and it’s predominantly male. And my workplace is also highly male dominated. So I don’t have any women that I know that I could ask out.
The difference is that pubs and nightclubs are not exclusively for people who are looking to meet other people. People go there with friends, to have a good time. Not so much with online dating sites.
I’ve never understood the appeal of meeting people at bars. If you want to build a relationship with someone, why not do it with someone you already know? Ask out a coworker or classmate or something. Why approach random people in bars purely based on their appearance?
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Expanding your pool of potential mates increases the chance of finding a mate.
That only works if you would consider the kind of person who likes to spend time at bars as a potential mate though.
Dating is all about going places you don’t like to meet people so also don’t want to be there, which makes literally any other option more appealing.
My SO and I met at a dance. I didn’t want to be there, and my SO thought it was tacky, so we had something immediately in common when I walked over to talk.
It’s a weird, unspoken cultural thing. If I go somewhere to have fun, I’m not interested in meeting new people, I’m interested in the activity.
And then there are people like me, who don’t have the biggest friend group and it’s predominantly male. And my workplace is also highly male dominated. So I don’t have any women that I know that I could ask out.