I’m a single mom to a 13 year old teen and we live in a bad area. I work two jobs to pay the bills. I’m currently a barista and at night I’m a dancer/stripper at a nightclub. I haven’t really told him about my night job yet, since I’ve just played it off as being a waitress. I feel like he’s gotten kind of mature now, but I also am kind of scared he might judge me or it might affect our relationship.
Nope. He won’t judge you, but he will tell his friends, and his friends will tell their parents and then they will judge you.
None of this is certain and it’s pretty useless to speculate if you don’t know the kid.
Then why even ask the question in the first place? Since no one but OP knows their kid the most.
Good advice is context-aware. Is often about offering guidance to help someone assess their situation from a third-party view.
For instance, if you asked me how to give good advice to a stranger I wouldn’t say “tell them to get more sleep and exercise”. I’d say to focus on helping them figure out what their goal is and what their options are. You see the difference?
but also he’s still going to judge you.
Why would her son judge her negatively? Or do you mean he would appreciate how hard she works to make their life bearable?
I know Lemmy is very left-coded but you have to be trolling if you think a 13 year old won’t have any reaction to being told his mother strips for strangers
What has that to do with left-coding. This has more to do with imprinting notions.
Edit: If she or important people around them imprinted on the kid that caring and providing for family was worse than abandoning and condemning family, then that might lead to the kid being disillusioned with the lack of support from the society. But otherwise, I surely hope that the kid was raised well enough to see that their mom did her best for them.
Are you serious? Teens massively judge everyone about everything. They especially judge their parents
Of course they will in stable families, especially with religious upbringing, but it’s way less likely when they grow up with a single parent who has to do things they dislike to keep their kids fed and clothed.
An interesting hypothesis. I could potentially believe that, but I’d need some non-anecdote evidence before i do. I can imagine it being true, but i can also imagine it being false
I was not aware of previous post history.
One; people doing non-damaging things to help their kids and them survive should never be shameful in any society. If it means they need to damage themselves in the process of survival for their kids there is way more wrong in their community and society than there should be.
Two; people doing fun stuff for themselves for kinks and jollies as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone or place them in weird circumstances or is like meh, let them be embarrassing.
Three; people doing weird shit that hurts their kids or other people mentally, physically or otherwise … fuck you.
Four: fuck trolls that try to justify CSAM or exposure.
Did you mean to reply to a different comment?