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        So many of these guys consider themselves Patrick Bateman irl, I’d absolutely not be surprised if it wasn’t just “I wish I was happy despite having no ambitions”, but rather he considers himself a “temporarily embarassed achiever”

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        And that’s the thing: If you only go to the gym to pick up women because your horrible personality won’t cut it, you’ll go home disappointed.

        That’s a pattern I generally see with these self-loathing greentexts: The posters have “ambitions” (read: feel entitled to success, money, and/or women) but don’t want to put in consistent effort or figure out why things are going wrong for them. Instead they project all the blame onto the rest of the world and spiral into depression.

        When they do decide to put in the effort you usually get something along these lines:

        > be me
        > ugly and everyone hates me
        > go to the gym to get a bod I can pick up females with bc they’re all shallow
        > actually get into working out
        > become friends with the gym bros
        > now I feel great, have a sixpack and real friends
        > itsthateasy.tif

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      It may actually be part of the depression. We don’t know that anyone hates him, just that he believes they do.

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    I learned to not be hated by shutting up in places where it matters, and pretending I don’t exist. I just do whatever people want of me, assume I’m wrong about anything I say, and only speak if forced to

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      Same. Though I didn’t develop critical thought until my late 20s since I was basically in people-please mode 24/7 making myself useful to surrogate parental figures at my workplace.

      There’s gotta be a balance

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    I’m curious how 4chan posters react to this kind of a post I am assuming the average age is like 35 on that site now. Its so pointless, blah blah blah im 20 and i think everything is the end of the world anyone relate? You’re 20 and lost some friends, it sucks but its not over and you havent been “left behind”.

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      age 20? that’s nearly half way to 50 which is half way to 100 which is practically game over man

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    That was my life. Then I found a woman who loves me. I have a lot to rebuild, sure. I was badly affected by the lockdowns and the depression they caused. I don’t think it’s hopeless, but I realize that the chapters of my life ahead will be far simpler and more isolated than those behind.