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    16 days ago

    Telling you that you’re too sensitive is a classic move by manipulative people, including parents, leading people to believe that they’re overly sensitive. If your gut is telling you that something is wrong, it likely is.

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      16 days ago

      Okay but as a person who is really sensitive, sometimes it really is a matter of how you’re reacting and not what the other person is doing.

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        Being sensitive and being led to believe that you’re too sensitive are not mutually exclusive. I grew up an abusive environment, and being able to quickly tune in on the moods of the adults around me saved me from plenty of beatings. Unfortunately, I also experienced a lot of emotional invalidation, including repeatedly being told I was “too sensitive”. This not only gives the abusers a free pass, it grooms you for abuse by others, as you tend to doubt your own feelings. It wasn’t until I learned about facial microexpressions that I was able to recognize the basis for my intuitive “gut” feelings - I have an almost superhuman ability to read people, undoubtedly because I learned this as a child as a way to protect myself from my parents. So yes, I am “sensitive,” but I’ve learned to trust my instincts, which are almost always 100% right at picking up on an off “vibe”.