As an autistic person who sees information sharing as more valid and respectable than affirming possible ignorant perspectives for the sake of obtuse social saliency, all I see is a fact and a valid question.
Also valid advice for those with money.
If you can save money from a theater ticket to another Disney slop live action remake, and donate that money to independent artists trying to survive and simultaneously have a voice despite the Disney/warner types stranglehold over sellable cinema for most public spaces.
People get so upset when anything questions their current trajectory, rather than saying “oh yeah, that’s a valid perspective to avoid the issue in context.”
And gets a lot of autistic people yelled at for doing their job or trying to help, IMO.
Is there a reason the advice and question aren’t valid? To me the only rudeness here is in the framing of the rebuke.
This isn’t trying to one up anyone, this is an attempt to communicate, and improve people’s ability to communicate.
I’ve even seen doctors excuse bullying of autistic children because the child joined discussion of test scores without pandering to the ego of people that were socially affirming how terrible the test must be, due to their performance.
At this point people need to start trying to understand the double empathy problem, because it’s valid for more cases of communication differences than just autism.
You’re right that its the framing here that reads as very rude - if someone is expressing their desire to do something, coming in and presenting something else as a clearly morally superior choice and denigrating the thing they wanted to do is considered quite rude; both because it assumes they’re somehow ignorant of the alternative choices and thus couldn’t have made an informed decision, and because it comes across like you’re asserting your own preferences as “more valid” than theirs.
Much as with all other forms of encoding (limerick, haiku, .mp4, web packets, semaphore, all written languages, etc) the format in which a lemmy comment is left is as critical to the communication of it’s idea as the actual content of the words themselves.
As an autistic person who sees information sharing as more valid and respectable than affirming possible ignorant perspectives for the sake of obtuse social saliency, all I see is a fact and a valid question.
Also valid advice for those with money. If you can save money from a theater ticket to another Disney slop live action remake, and donate that money to independent artists trying to survive and simultaneously have a voice despite the Disney/warner types stranglehold over sellable cinema for most public spaces.
People get so upset when anything questions their current trajectory, rather than saying “oh yeah, that’s a valid perspective to avoid the issue in context.”
And gets a lot of autistic people yelled at for doing their job or trying to help, IMO.
Is there a reason the advice and question aren’t valid? To me the only rudeness here is in the framing of the rebuke.
This isn’t trying to one up anyone, this is an attempt to communicate, and improve people’s ability to communicate.
I’ve even seen doctors excuse bullying of autistic children because the child joined discussion of test scores without pandering to the ego of people that were socially affirming how terrible the test must be, due to their performance.
At this point people need to start trying to understand the double empathy problem, because it’s valid for more cases of communication differences than just autism.
Thank you for reading!
It is the framing, yes. The second half reads as telling OP that it’s bad to want to go to the theatre in a conscensing way.
So you say you’re autistic… <3You’re right that its the framing here that reads as very rude - if someone is expressing their desire to do something, coming in and presenting something else as a clearly morally superior choice and denigrating the thing they wanted to do is considered quite rude; both because it assumes they’re somehow ignorant of the alternative choices and thus couldn’t have made an informed decision, and because it comes across like you’re asserting your own preferences as “more valid” than theirs.
Much as with all other forms of encoding (limerick, haiku, .mp4, web packets, semaphore, all written languages, etc) the format in which a lemmy comment is left is as critical to the communication of it’s idea as the actual content of the words themselves.