Some random dude walked up to me while I was waiting outside a food place for my food and asked me this question.
I said “no, I dont give out random favors” and something along the lines of that’s sus.
Is it rude to say no to random dude that asks for a favor?
He walked away. Said something about it’s not for money or something, I’m very suspicious of random humans.
Since he walked away i assume he meant no harm. I thought it strange shrug.
Sometimes people use that question rhetorically because it feels polite, viewing it as a small talk precursor to ease in to actually just saying what they want.
I don’t like when people use it as such, because it is insincere, poor consent practice, and low-key manipulative due to the foot in the door phenomenon .
There are tons of legitimate reasons to not be comfortable with the question. Don’t have time, bad headspace, don’t feel comfortable… If they can’t understand that, I try not to care what they think of me.
This is part of my fear.
You think it’s strange to ask a stranger for help? That sounds like a cold world to me
You weren’t there.
He walked up and said hi and wanted to shake my hand (red flags germaphobe)
Hey, can I ask you a favor? (As he tries to set stuff down next to me on the table, red flags what do you want from me, money, theft, drugs)
I stood up and was like like “no, you can’t ask me a favor.”
Like, seriously I guess I am rude for wanting to sit in peace and waiting for food from place.
You’re mixing up two very different things. In your post you asked how you should respond in the general situation of a stranger asking if you’d do them a favor, and so that’s the question that people answered on this page.
Then in your replies you try to apply those answers to a totally different situation.
BUT
There’s beggers all around in my area. I say no all the time. You get tired of all the same begging bs very quickly.
At least he didn’t continue asking you and following you.