• BreakerSwitch@lemm.ee
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    1 month ago

    This is the correct take. As someone well endowed, I get to either be real real careful and avoid a lot of positions, or date exclusively masochistic girls who want it to hurt. As a result, I have had the thought “I’m not sadistic enough for this girl” during sex before.

    • DrivebyHaiku@lemmy.ca
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      1 month ago

      Yeah as a bottom with a large partner with delayed ejaculation I can say that while people seem to value length and stamina/lasting power in porn… the reality is there’s advantages to not accidentally knocking the absolute stuffing out of your partner and tiring them to the bone whenever you do the deed.

      • Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world
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        1 month ago

        Yes please. I’m sorry guys, but it’s not a super power to “be able to keep going and going” without effort. That’s called desensitivity, and it’s troubling.

        I don’t like always having to be the one to decide when sex has to stop. I don’t like when every act ends because I’m getting sore. It makes me feel like a buzzkill. If you can’t sometimes stop yourself first, sex risks becoming a chore for your partner to endure, instead of a mutually-enjoyable act of bonding.

        YMMV, talking to your partner is better than assuming anything based off a Lemmy comment. This is just some food for thought.

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      1 month ago

      Yeah. I actually do like big, occasionally. But also I like everyday sex, and with big guys you need some time between to heal & recover. This is NOT an advantage. Guys seem to think bigger is better, full stop. That’s just not true. More pleasure (if you are into that) with a hung guy, sure. But WAY more pleasure overall with more sex.