When I was young, insecure about my sexual inexperience, convinced I was worth less than others, and on 4chan all the time, there were some levels on which I really did not understand that, which led to some uncomfortable situations, and could easily have led to worse ones. Flirting isn’t really something you analyze and make decisions about anyway, if someone isn’t responding to it, maybe that says something about how they are feeling and should be respected regardless of if they understand on a conscious level what is going on.
It’s someone I met recently. My brain noticed they’re interst and went “seems like a great potential friend”. But I’m worried about leading her on if I reach out.
I’d argue ignoring their advances while being aware isn’t a very friendly thing to do. Not that you’re obligated to act on their advances, just don’t pretend to be a friend.
I suppose it depends on the advances. If it’s just flirting, then flirt back or don’t are both fair. If it’s a confession of feelings or asking them out, ignoring those can be pretty cruel, though it can also depend on the person.
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It’s ok but it’s like this idea that they should be ashamed for not thinking to do it, like it’s their obligation as a man or something
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FTFY
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When I was young, insecure about my sexual inexperience, convinced I was worth less than others, and on 4chan all the time, there were some levels on which I really did not understand that, which led to some uncomfortable situations, and could easily have led to worse ones. Flirting isn’t really something you analyze and make decisions about anyway, if someone isn’t responding to it, maybe that says something about how they are feeling and should be respected regardless of if they understand on a conscious level what is going on.
What do you do when you notice some hints but aren’t interested in them romantically, but instead genuinely want to be friends with them?
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It’s someone I met recently. My brain noticed they’re interst and went “seems like a great potential friend”. But I’m worried about leading her on if I reach out.
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Thank you!
I’d argue ignoring their advances while being aware isn’t a very friendly thing to do. Not that you’re obligated to act on their advances, just don’t pretend to be a friend.
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I suppose it depends on the advances. If it’s just flirting, then flirt back or don’t are both fair. If it’s a confession of feelings or asking them out, ignoring those can be pretty cruel, though it can also depend on the person.
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