Online dating has worked well for me but it requires some really strong mental barriers so you dont get overwhelmed. Most apps have some sort of ‘you got liked by X’ counter which feels really degrading and destroyes your self esteemed as a guy if youre not confident. Inversely, as a woman you get so many likes you drown in a swamp with 0 ineresting things, like a never ending tide.

And bios are just … The worst. I Am really fucking tempted to write ‘if your primarily sexual characteristics are what you are most proud of of yourself, you need to think up a new personality’

I categorically dont like anyone who looks like my countries typical beauty standard and/or has no bio/is not interested in conveying their personality…

Any like I give a girl who is ‘standard beautiful’ just fades into the white noise and is a waste of time.

To be clear, I Am not saying everyone in the beauty standard has no personality; but its more likely that such a person does not need to use their brain to get what they want. All the Better if they do, but it sure Doesn’t look that way if you get showered with attention when you got an empty bio…

Subjective and for sure flawed rant is over

You may be describing something called ‘Workload paralysis’ which, in short, makes tasks daunting because they seem so hard to start. Usually it ‘leads to’ procrastination, doing tasks instead that are known and easier.

Doesn’t help that modern society tries to make you feel bad for having this parallesis, making it cause this whirlpool of self doubt.

Sadly there is AFAIK only one medicine: start. No matte rhow slowly, no matter how insignificant or pointless it may seem, start. As soon as you spend time doing anything, you will get better at doing it. This counts for all tasks.