I am a social guy, talking to people comes quite natural to me. Therefore I make friends easily. I have had a ton of crushes and was also in love for a couple of times. However I have never had any relationship to speak of (I’m 25, btw), and I feel like I’m missing out on something.
When it comes to relationships I honestly don’t know how people do it. I don’t know what makes someone “like” someone else, safe for their appearance. Or how someone “starts” to see another as a romantic partner rather than platonic. I feel like I only know how to serve friendship. So how do people develop feelings for someone?
Well for me I had to change my gender and then suddenly i could be in love with people.
Okay I probably should’ve mentioned this. I most certainly do and can develop feelings for people but I just don’t know how to (for lack of a better word) make others see me for more than just a friend.
Edit: Okay it’s edited into the description now.
I don’t thing you can make others do that. Just be yourself as much as you can (I know that’s not easy for some people), and don’t be a dick, and it’ll happen eventually.
I think maybe coming at it obliquely is best. Don’t make it your main aim, because desperation is off-putting, but keep it in your awareness so that you catch it when it presents itself.
Personally I found doing stuff with others based around a common interest the easiest way to meet people who had a similar world-view. And from there it’s easier to stumble upon people who might find you attractive. Getting mutually excited with someone about a shared interest can be pretty attractive.
Oh yeah that’s a different question. I had to work on my behaviours and get into the right friend circle of bad girlies, but that’s peolly hard to just stumble into