[edit: I thank everyone for their comments and time. A lot of very interesting opinions and view points. Unfortunately also a lot of things that went away from the actual answer. So I’m thinking maybe this thread can be closed without deleting it?]
The more I hear people talk about it who aren’t cis-het men, the more I hear criticism about the concept. But so far, I’ve only heard people say that it’s stupid, that it’s not a thing, that it’s men’s own fault etc. But I’ve yet to understand where that criticism comes from. I don’t want to start a discussion on whether or not it’s real or not. I just want to understand where the critics are coming from.
Ok now that I know my terms I am apparently a cis-het man and don’t feel this and don’t know anyone who does so its a bit hard to know how or why it may be happening. I am older though so is this possibly more prevalent in an age group? Although also im an introvert so don’t need all that much people interaction to not feel lonely.
Robert Putnam wrote an influential essay called “Bowling Alone” about the weakening social institutions in American society, and the accompanying rise in loneliness. It was published in 1995 and eventually adapted into a full length book published in 2000.
It’s not new. But the trend lines that could be seen in the 90’s have only gotten worse, as we’ve lost or weakened many of the social institutions that used to keep us grounded in our communities.
Its deff a thing in Millennial age groups too but it is really about 20s something age group.
It is notale specific. It is symptom of poor socio economic co conditions and infrastructure designed for suburban trash lifestyle