• Manticore@lemmy.nz
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    19 days ago

    I’m reminded of someone I know. He felt something similar for a long time. Ultimately he concluded that, for him, what he really wanted was to feel attractive and desirable. And sincr he believed that only women could have that, he spend years conflicted about wanting to be a woman.

    After some time around sex-positive people, he had experiences that helped him feel desirable and attractive as a man. He realised that was what he actually wanted, and he’d just been taught beauty was a women-thing and thought he had to be a woman to have it.

    Maybe that rings true for you, too. Maybe all you really want is to feel beautiful, wanted, desired. Maybe want you dislike isn’t your gender, but the role society has assigned you for it.

    Only you can really figure that out. I just wondered if my friends story would mean something to you… Being trans is a valid answer, but it isn’t the right one for everybody.

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      19 days ago

      Absolutely, and I am aware of that - it’s really the case with me. I do not dislike being male. I just dislike being ugly - not many people can claim to have spent 20 years as an involuntary celibate like me. I’m almost 50 and it just feels like so much wasted time. Wasted youth, really.

      Going trans wouldn’t solve the problem at all. Nothing will solve the problem, to be honest. I have accepted my fate.